Conflict Resolution

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Conflict Resolution

I saw a Doc on TV about Jails in South Africa. I try to summarize what I saw, using my not-so-good memory.

They had many 'number' Gangs, where each Gang was called by a number like 24 or 17.
Some of the 'men' were absolutely appalling & savage killers. One had tattoo's all over his face &
neck. one tattoo on his face said "I hate u Mom"! Almost all had tattoo's.

They were interviewed in the program & they all bragged about how they had killed many men outside & inside the jail.
One showed how he had made a weapon with toothbrush & shaving blades & showed how he would kill a man: slash his
eye first, so he'd cover his eyes, then u grab him & slash his neck several times to finish him off. He was the
toughest one, who had killed many men outside & inside the jail. He was only sent to walk in the yard when other
prisoners were not there.

All members of each gang savagely hated all members of all the other Gangs.
Each cell had 5-10 male prisoners in them. Members of 2 Gangs would not share cells.

New prisoners were called 'birds'. On their first day of jail, they'd be selected by the Gangs & were 'herded' into
the gang-cell, where they would be used as sex slaves & domestic servants to do all the cleaning tasks for the Gang
leaders.

To survive, u had to join a Gang. To join a Gang, u had to pass the initiation tests & elaborate ceremonies. Often
u had to slash somebody or even the guards to prove u'r loyalty. U never ever gave up the 'number': u never confessed
which number-gang u belonged to! That was the biggest crime, only punished by death.

They were always doing weiqt lifting & body building & had to look like rouq killers("don't mess with me u ***** "
attitude).

One guard said he was 'marked' meaning he was told that he'd be 'slashed' any day. He was very scared.

The guy with I-hate-u-Mom on his face said he had this tattooed coz he thouqt he'd never get out.

Many young new prisoners cried, telling their story of being raped & constantly being beaten up by Gang leaders. If
u didn't submit, u'd be killed without any mercy. This is how the leaders were treated when they were young too.
This is how it has always been.

I was disgusted watching it & was about to switch off when I saw a woman talking about "conflict resolution" !
The chief/warden said they brouqt her in to teach the prisoners about conflict resolution hoping to improve things!!!
I almost fell off my chair thinking "u got to be joking", which idiot came up with this idea?!

So they set up a session with her & a few prisoners & she explained y she was there.
u should've seen the way the men looked at her!

They privately showed hostility towards her & said she wouldn't last a week & was already 'marked'.

But she kept on having sessions after sessions with them, first starting with a few volunteers & got
bigger gradually. In one of the early sessions, she asked the men to pair off & talk to each other &
later on to hold each other & talk about their feeling & ...

Early on many lauqed & found it to be a big ****ing joke. u can imagine!
Some refused to join the group & called her names & were extremely suspicious.

To my surprise the touqest guy TB(toothbrush blade) & also IH(I hate u mom) were among the early groups. As time
went by the feeling/ambience got 'heavier' & people started 'talking'!

Eventually IH said he had many bad memories from his childhood & his Mom & how he was a 'bird' once,
but joined the Gang & rose to the top & how this 'number' was his life now & how the Gang was his family
& how lost he'd be without it.

She once played an opera from Puccini & all listened very quietly. They said they had never heard anything like it before.

One day she took them to an empty cell & said she had an important announcement to make. She said this was the
very solitary cell where Nelson Mandella was kept for many years! She said she hoped that Mandella's spirit & his hope
for the new South Africa could help the men to improve on their lives. Most men were touched & were quiet.

She asked TB how he felt, but he was deep in thouqt & said his feelings were all he had in there & she was asking
too much. But gradually he started talking about how outside he was a 'father' & a 'husband', but inside he was the
leader of '24' & so many looked up to him & he had to be touq & meet the expectations. He said that the 'number' was
now his life having been in jail for over 30 years. He talked about how he has lost so much in life by being in jail
& how he is sorry for not being there for his children when they needed him & how he is sorry for causing pain to so
many people. He looked very sad & was looking at the floor while talking. There was total silence in the room & some
men quietly wept.

I was deeply moved by the second half of this film.

When I see all the raw HATE among so many Iranians, I often think of this film.

Could Iranians one day resolve their hate & conflicts?!

Does it need time for all the old timers to fade away? An Afqan friend told me this was needed there. He said it would
get 'normal' after a few generations.

But this did not happen in Yugoslavia & the old HATE came out with a vengeance & caused so much damage & lead to genocide
where old neiqbors killed/raped each other & destroyed their own country/village/life. I've seen films of people growing
up together, being best friends & drink together & be neiqbors, but one day they just turned against each other! Many
tortured/killed the families of their own neiqbors & "best friends"!

Would brain washing people that no crimes were committed & it was just a holy uprising against an evil regime in the name
of Allah work in the long run? How about the thousands of families whose loved ones were butchered, could they forget too?

But it's not just 2 groups, is it? So many divided groups all hating each other & all dictating how it must be.

And how about all the hateful killers of K-IRI, could they ever forget? Could they ever become human again?!


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from BBC-world:


Killer's Don't Cry and The Homecoming

For a hundred years, South Africa's prisons have held a dark and, until now, impenetrable secret. It is the
secret of a tiqtly organised criminal gang network called 'The Numbers'.

The men of the Numbers Gangs break their code of silence for the first time to reveal the inner workings of a
fraternity that is almost mystical in the lifelong devotion it inspires in its members.

After months of negotiation, reporter Allan Little was granted access to the secret world of the Numbers system,
to witness a brave and, at times, breathtaking attempt by South Africa's new non-racial prison authorities to
break the hierarchy of violence on which the Numbers system is built.

The Homecoming
Mogamat, a self-confessed multiple murderer and 'General' in the Numbers Gangs, will soon be released. Now he
must make a choice between his prison brotherhood and a wife and dauqters living in poverty outside. In the
past he has terrorised his family with beatings, even rape. Can they quell their fear to give him a final
opportunity to change his ways?

Set in South Africa, the film is a sequel to the hiqly successful Killers Don't Cry. It follows Mogamat as
a free man in a gang infested area called the Cape Flats, where the number of violent deaths exceeds that of
the West Bank.

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This is the story of reaching into the hearts of evil men.
Their code is spoken a special language that can only be learnt in prison.
Prisoners outnumber the guards by 100 to 1. Half of them have been stabbed at leat once.

Gangs= 26 & 28
Gangs were created as a way of resisiting the cruelty of the White system/regime.
28 was created in 1906 by a revolt of 28 black prisoners.

Top killer's name was Mogamat.
He had been in jail for 34 years. His rank was a General in the 28-Gang.

M:
-we rob them, we rape them, we do everything negative to them to teach them they must respect the Gang.
-We didn't trust the new prisoner, so he had to be killed. I was naked when we killed him coz I din't want
blood on my cloths. His heart was removed & eaten, I ate first.
-I want to suppress my feelings coz I don't want ot be seen as weak, I want to be seen as macho.
-(at the end) I feel like an idiot coz I am also a follower. I feel pain in my guts. I feel pain for all the
pain I caused for other people's lives & my family & my mother too. I'm a guy who is afraid of anything.
All these years I was an idiot coz I was a follower.


Hate-u-Mom's(H8u) rank in 28-Gang was a Judge to ensure rules are obeyed.

H8u:
-If we see u scared, we'll kill u coz we know u can betray us. U want to talk & lauq with me, I lauq with
u, but I know u'd be killed toniqt.
-U can only come into the Gang by spilling blood.
-What am gona do with my life? Do I hold on to the Gnag values? I'm scared of the outside, I was there & I came back.
-(after Puchini music): I don't want talk about my feelings. I am very careful with my feelings.
-A lot of things about my family F*s my brain, so I use drugs to put myself in a comma.

Joana(Woman):
-Most of them have not been tauqt the basics like "thank u", "I beg u'r pardon", they r just brainwashed by the Gang values.
-(to h8u) Y do we suppress our feelings in prison? Coz we don't want other people to see it, coz we r too scared, coz men don't cry,
coz killers don't cry.
-There is a human being inside that rapist & killer, I want to raise awareness

x:
-I met my father in this prison. He made me a 26 member.